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It actually takes a lot of energy to be lazy. That’s ironic, I know.
See, in order to procrastinate, you have to think of what you need to do just like anyone else. But Then you have to delay it. Then you have to worry about it and have it niggle away at you.
Then when the new/delayed time to do it comes up, you have to delay it again. Then you have to worry and have it niggle at you more than before.
And so on.
It’s actually a lot of work. Not nice work. And 95% of the time, you think that what needs to be done is more than it actually is. Haven’t you finally finished something that you were supposed to finish ages ago and then stopped to wonder:
“Why didn’t I do this before ? It wasn’t that hard !”
The reason is because your whims got in the way. Whims cloud the mind. Things don’t need to make sense in order for us to do them. Especially when our whims are involved.
Lack of Discipline & Willpower
Which brings us onto the ever popular discipline and will power issue.
It takes a lot of discipline to be undisciplined !
That’s right. And it takes a lot of will power to torture yourself with procrastination and laziness. To delay your success and the joyous feelings of achieving.
And that’s one of the worst things about whims !
They fool you into falling into that which you think you are running away from by following them (your whims).
So you don’t want to be disciplined. Your whims kick in. Then you slog and effort more than you would have had to before… with far LESS of the rewards/fruits.
Big con if you ask me !
Distractions & Inconsistency
I love how people can be so consistently inconsistent. Then with a straight face they complain that they’re not consistent.
Too funny. Every time.
How your ego is playing games with you:
There are three types of whims that generate all our desires/feelings and problems.
Each whim is both a want and a lack at the same time. I explain more about this in the newsletter.
Lacking/wanting control: all of the above are symptomatic of a lack of control. That is quite obvious. What is less obvious is that this lack of control is CREATED.
Lacking/wanting approval: most people distract themselves and procrastinate because they lack approval for the idea of doing things. The problem is that even when you’re doing ‘nothing’, you are in fact doing something. So this whim blinds you into thinking that you can do nothing. It’s a lie.
Also, as the things-to-do pile up, we lack approval for ourselves. This makes it harder to do anything. The vicious circle continues.
Lacking/wanting security: laziness is also symptomatic of lacking security. When one is afraid to face his issues etc. he/she will procrastinate and keep themselves busy with other things.
Fear of failure and success fall into this. In fact, surprisingly, fear of getting things done and then not having anything to do is a big one for a lot of people. The whim tricks them into thinking that they won’t exist if they have nothing to do.
So they choose to do nothing, to run away from having nothing to do.
It’s illogical I know. It’s a whim.
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Since writing this, a sister emailed me and wished to contribute. Here are her thoughts:
“I just wanted to contribute to it in some way and share this with others.
I had a realisation today. Blindingly obvious to onlookers but meaningless until you have that light bulb moment yourself.
I often procrastinate. My mother asked me why do you leave fajr to the last minute?It was a simple enough question. but difficult to answer, and I needed the answer.
As I sat on the sofa in the glow of early morning I tried to answer myself. I know it is bad to leave salah to the last minute. I know how wonderful it is to feel that connection with Allah and enjoy this often in my salah alhamdulilah. So why am I not rushing headlong to perform wudu and stand before my Lord?
I could say I’m weak, I’m lazy, but it wasnt enough, i needed another reason. What is wrong with you, what am I waiting for?
Thats it! Thats the answer – I’m waiting.
I am waiting to feel like doing it.
Ha! What?! (said the other voice in my head) how pathetic are you! you think people wait til they feel like doing something before they do it? Sometimes you have to just force yourself and the motivation will come after you start, not before.
Wow. I felt like i’d been punched in the chest. How could I have not seen this before? All I have to do is ignore the whim and just do what you need to do.
Easier said than done sometimes, I know. We are all work in progress. But sometimes, telling yourself the right things triggers a reaction in you and it works. We just have to keep trying.”